Ok, so #girlboss week was last week, but I had such an incredible response to those career/life posts that I promise to keep them coming amongst all the usual stuff. Inspired by a Harper's Bazaar article on power moves women should adopt from men, here are some ways to increase your confidence at work and build a more powerful reputation.
1. Introduce yourself with your first and last name. Admittedly, I'm terrible at this. Mostly because my name is kind of a mouthful. 'Kimberly Novosel' doesn't quite roll off the tongue. It tends to inspire people to look at me as if they wish I'd repeat it, which is embarrassing, and then they don't even catch my first name. However, the confidence with which you say your full name is what speaks loudest so I'm vowing to do this more often. Bonus: If you're at a business specific event, use both your full name and your company name.
2. Accept compliments with "thank you." We women tend to bat away compliments, "Oh, no, you are!" or even to explain them away with chatter about where we got the necklace or who does our hair or how much our shoes were on sale. All you really need is two words. THANK YOU.
3. Have a signature style. I worked with a realtor some years ago who was known for his bow ties. Not everyone can pull that off, you know, but he claimed the style as his own and it oozed confidence and strengthened his brand. My best friend who is a talent agent rocks red lips no matter the day, the look, or the hairstyle. Need help with ideas? Check out my branding style guide!
4. Own your space. The body language women employ tends to be smaller and more closed off than men's. We sit forward, clasp our hands, duck our heads. Subconsciously we're trying to seem unintimidating and relatable. But that's not powerful or commanding. Men sit back, square their shoulders, open their arms. Try this in your next meeting!
5. Know what you want. From ordering at a restaurant to pitching a new idea in a brainstorming session to negotiating your salary, be sure and speak as such. If you believe in what you have to say, others will too. You can be that confident and still be open to the input of others.
Honestly, what it comes down to is worrying less about how others feel or how much they may like us. And that doesn't mean hurting feelings or being unlikable. One of my favorite words in leadership (and life) is graciousness. I can tell my intern what I'd like her to complete today with authority and with a "thank you so much." I can pitch an idea to my teammates with confidence and listen kindly to their feedback. Give it a try this week!
Which of these power moves are you most eager to practice? What's your favorite power move? Share in the comments below!